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Finding A Happy Disposition In A Sea Of Disparate Negativity.

 

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Your disposition, your attitude, your demeanor precede you throughout your life. It is true…people can sense a poor disposition by the scowl on a person’s face. There was a time when I thought that a sad and discordant disposition was an inherited trait. I believed that there was nothing that a person could do if they were born with a negative personality. They were stuck with it. They just had to figure out how to live with negativity, how to simply give in to negativity, how to accept that they were the inevitable complainers. I changed my mind in the years after college when I was working at newspapers. I really changed my mind after I began teaching elementary school.

 

Nature vs Nurture…the debate that has continued through generations.

 

Blaming nature may be the easy way to explain away your far from positive attitude and lack of motivation. A coworker at a newspaper where I worked was a prime example…temperamental to the point of throwing things off of his desk; curt and rude answers; never thought that he was at fault for anything; blamed the general population of the city for any complaints about his articles; argued and yelled during staff meetings; stomped out of multiple meetings. His overall negative disposition and blatant behavior caused havoc for the entire staff. What a downer of a person. He was lusting for control of every situation.

 

One comment that he always made was… “I act just like my grandfather. I am proud of it!”…followed by “I could easily act a lot better, but I like the attention!”

 

He eventually lost his job. He never went back into the newspaper business. His disposition preceded him at every location where he applied. What talent he had! What a very fine writer! What research he completed for each assignment! And yet…he could not succeed in a competitive environment. The fault was completely his own.

 

I wonder how his upbringing came into play. Was he nurtured by his family? Was he taught to accept responsibility for his own actions? Was he taught to seek happiness even if it took a huge amount of effort? Was he taught the critical importance of behavior restraint? Was he taught about kindness?

 

Craig Jarrow wrote an interesting article on his site, Time Management Ninja…”21 Ways to Define a Positive Attitude”. Jarrow states that productivity in a job setting is contagious and your attitude is also very contagious. A positive and happy disposition can be contagious, but a negative and poor disposition can seem like a virus. In other words…a poor disposition can be a corrupting influence in any setting.

A positive attitude works in tandem with  a positive disposition.

 

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“21 Ways to Define a Positive Attitude”

By: Craig Jarrow

 

  1. It is looking adversity in the eye…and laughing.

  2. Getting what you get, and not pitching a fit.

  3. Enjoying the unexpected, even when it’s not what you originally wanted.

  4. Motivating those around you with a positive word.

  5. Using the power of a smile to reverse the tone of a situation.

  6. Being friendly to those you don’t know.

  7. It’s getting beck up when you fall down. (No matter how many times you fall down.)

  8. Being a source of energy that lifts those around you.

  9. Understanding that relationships are more important than material things.

  10. Being happy even when you have little.

  11. Having a good time even when you are losing.

  12. Being happy for the success of someone else.

  13. Having a positive future vision, no matter how bad your current circumstances.

  14. Smiling.

  15. Paying a compliment, even to a total stranger.

  16. Tell someone you know that they did a great job. (And mean it.)

  17. Making someone’s day. (Not just a child’s…adults like to have their day to be special too.)

  18. It’s not complaining no matter how unfair things appear to be. (It is a waste of time…instead do something.)

  19. Not letting the negativity of other people bring you down.

  20. Giving more that you expect to get in return.

  21. Being true to yourself…always.

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Your choice…adjust your disposition and have a positive attitude!

 

Choose to be the type of person that everyone wants to work with, to talk to, to collaborate with…a positive and happy disposition is a cohesive force!

 

 

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13 thoughts on “Finding A Happy Disposition In A Sea Of Disparate Negativity.”

  3. A very good post and important to know the difference! 30% of our personality is inherited. 70% is influenced and learned behavior. Being positive or negative is mostly learned behavior and mentality. We can learn to be positive and use our brain power to maintain positive most of the time. For physical and mental and emotional health’s sake.

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    • I love that song too…after the song came out, I started playing it every day at school towards the end of the day. The children would so look forward to it. I could put the video on my smartboard that covered half a wall in my classroom…it was hooked up to my computer. Every classroom had one…at least Fort Worth ISD bought those!! Anyway…the children would sing and dance to the song. So fun to watch them…then they would get their backpacks and get ready to dismiss. My most important motive to playing the video!

      Anyway…I wrote this post because on the way downtown this morning…we had time to stop at Grandy’s for breakfast. The lady taking the order was so friendly and happy and just seemed thrilled to be working. She made the atmosphere in the whole entire restaurant to be so, so pleasant! I mentioned to Mike that I hadn’t thought about it before, but maybe children should be taught about creating a good disposition for themselves… again and again during their school years. Without a positive disposition, life is so much more difficult!

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